Pleasure – Curse of Blessing?

3-prinzipienSomehow many people seem to have a talent for permanently failing to keep the right balance and swing from one extreme to the other. Such is true in particular when it comes to pleasure and lust. In our wealthy societies of the west many individuals are addicted to sensual stimulation and believe that more and more extravagant “kicks” will ultimately give them what their heart is so desperately searching for, no matter of the fact that life experiences proves them wrong on a regular basis. It is obvious that such behaviour cannot be prosperious as every reasonable person can easily see. But what our head knows our heart does not necessarily accept and it is usually the latter which keeps the upper hand when it comes to conflict between the two of them.

A big part of the problems of our times concerning different pleasures comes from a false understanding of freedom. Many contemporaries naively think that freedom means that they can do whatever they please, whatever they want. By doing so they become slaves to passions and to their own will – who would call such a state freedom? In fact freedom is, as I have shown numerous times on this blog, the possibility to do what you ought to, to do your duty, according to your life’s mission. “I can do what I ought to!” and not “I can do what I want”, is what is decisive here.

When it comes to pleasure philosophers, theologians, moralists and many others have developped many different ideas, ideologies, programs and the like to tame the emotional impulses and to find ways how to deal with them. After studying them for many years I came to the conclusion that it all actually comes down to three principles which we have to apply to reach a maximum of pleasure and making sure we are not producing harm at the same time.


The three principles you need to deal with pleasure and lust

  • Every pleasure, no matter how great it may be, has to be kept in balance. Exaggeration destroys your appetite and turns pleasure into pain and suffering.
  • No pleasure should ever distract you from your ultimate life purpose or make it harder or even impossible to reach it.
  • Only such pleasures are legitimate which respect the holy rights of others and don’t violate them.

Keep the balance

Every extreme harms us (except when it comes to love). Even things like justice shall not be exaggerated (therefore grace exists to correct it). This principle has already been describes by Aristotle in antique Greece and according to him it is the fundament for a happy and fulfilled life (“eudaimonia”). Also the bible, in it’s books of wisdom, recommends us to keep the right balance and life experience permanently proves that keeping the balance is the right thing to do.

Always keep your life mission in mind

No pleasure is worth blocking us from achieving our life’s mission. No short term pleasure is worth long term disadvantages. It is best to always imagine the long term consequences when you face an actual seduction in your life. If you develop this ability, to see and feel the negativity which will be the result of giving in to such a seduction, you have a strong tool at hand which can protect you from giving up on your life purpose.

Never violate the rights of others

Finally there is no real joy in doing something someone else has to pay the price for. If your pleasure is someone else’s suffering you are violating moral principles and if your conscience is intact you cannot just go on with you life as if nothing happend at all. This last point of course requires some empathy on your part. But without such life will never by very pleasureable anyway.



It is obvious that pleasure and lust shall never be lived our licentiously. Hedonism is a treadmill which produces the more pain, the more you give in to it. To enjoy life profoundly one has to apply a decent amount of discipline. But also when it comes to discipline we have to make sure to keep the right balance, for too much and too harsh discipline will only surpress our vividness and leads to bitter stoicism, probably even to denial of pleasure and life itself. Furthermore we shall not find pleasures which exist on other people’s expenses (this includes mocking, ridicule and many other kinds of “verbal brutality”). Finally we shall always keep our big life goals, mission and purpose in mind, that means to orientate ourselves on our long term perspectives. If we keep these three principles we have layed down a strong base for a fulfilled life and can legitimately enjoy our being on this earth to it’s fullest.


Yours O. M.

It’s a crime not to enjoy life!



„Human beings are happy, everyone is!

The whole misery only comes from people

Not knowing that they are already happy.”

– Fjodor Dostojewskij –


„Life is the result of the programming of your mind!“

„One moment, that is not true – my own life is very different from the way I imagine it to be!“

“Well my friend, it is the mind which rules over matter and everything that happens in your life.”

“I think you wanna fool me.”

“Not at all my friend.”


This short dialogue is very realistic when it comes to the question for the causes of life, when it come to find out why the things in life are the way they are. The decisive error which is underlying here acutally consists in the non-understanding of the dualistic nature of the mind. Our mind consists of a conscious part (the one we usually consider to be the “reality”) and the unsonscious mind (of which we normally know very little about). Since Freud this dualistic nature of the human mind has caused a big amound of irritation, unbelief and diffuculties of all kinds.

Our unconscious mind is under our control, but the unconscious mind works exactely like a machine, a computer – it is so to speak “mindless”. This computer expresses without exception what goes into it (“garbage in, garbage out”, as an old programmers saying goes). Our unconscious is like an autopilot and unbelieveable 99 percent! of our whole life are determined by it and are the direct result of this programming. Therefore it is only rational to make sure that our autopilot is programmed in a constructive, positive, live-affirming way, so that the results are corresponding and we don’t have to suffer or live in a reality which is so very different from what we intend it to be and of what we where born to be (and expressing ourselves to the fullest and live life to the highest level possible is without any question what we where made for and what is our true purpose of living on this earth in exactely in the times we are living now in the 21st century!).

If we look at our life and at life in general from this perspective (namely that life is chiefly determined by the right way of programming your mind), we are in the position to execute the right changes which are necessary in order to make the shift from the loser side to the winner side.

„It happens to you according to your belief“, Jesus Christ told us and in doing so made one of the most significant statements ever made on this earth. Completely apart from whether you call yourself a christian or not, it highly pays to think deeply about those words. If we accept them as true we have to change the way we live dramatically. In particular you cannot hold upright the old paradigms which where given to us by education, upbringing and socialization. We have to alter what we have been told to hold for true. And this never comes easy and withoug some pain. We have to set apart ourselves from the masses, the “sheeple” and begin to live our life from within, from the true source which we are all born from, but only the fewest of us ever dare to express in our life.


The decisive paradigm change

Am I the victim of the circumstances or am I the master of my fate? The way you answer this question is one of the most decisive things in your whole life, because here lies the key to power or powerlessness. If we think we are victimes, life is basically like gambling, the results are lying outside of our control. If we on the other side consider ourselves as the creators of our destiny we possess enormous power. The other side of this view naturally is that we have to accept complete responsiblity for everything which happens to us and cannot point fingers onto others who we want to blame for our life. To accept that you are a creator and not a victim demands a great amount of maturity but we will only be mature, adult individuals if we face this fact and finally take this hard step. If we deny to do so we are like eternal children who strongly resist to accept reality until it is too late. The decision is up to everyone of us.


Pay attention to the messages you allow access to your mind

We have to gain clarity about the human mind and that it is a very sensitive instrument which is strongly influences by everything which is going on in our life, including the outside happenings as well as everthing which is going on inside of us. The human brain is the greatest as well as the most complex creation in the whole universe which enables us to turn our life into either heaven or hell. What we decide for is purely dependent on our own sovereign decision. Therefore I mention some points to improve your life quality and life reality here. If you follow them thoroughly the good results will be guaranteed:

  • Drastically reduce your comsumption of the (mainstream-) news. What they present to us on a daily basis is not the “truth” but nothing else but a highly selected program intended to program our minds according to other peoples agenda. Watching the news is acutally a way of becoming a slave to others; the more you consume them the more you lose your freedom. News are not a comprehensive view onto the world but a manipulation of what you should see according to your masters agenda. By the media you control people. Take over the control over yourself, over your own mind, and don’t allow institutions to determine the way you see the world. (the times of propaganda are finally over in our times!). The media is merely profitting from our instincts which mainly result in the flight-or-flight reflex when it comes to threats. That was a good thing in times when the world was full of dangers and our survival depended on recongnizing them very quickly. But now in the 21st century where security and peace are the predominant determinants of our life such stone-age behaviour is outdated, senseless and even harmful. The pardigms have changed drastically! Today we don’t live in a world of lack, but in one of unbelieveable abundance! The world has never been richer, more just and supporting to human life than ever before. And the best thing is: is becomes better and better all the time! If we have made this fact conscious to ourselves we can lay down all the fear, sorrows and turn over to confidence, love and opitmism which we permanently face in the world every single moment. Instead of reacting instinctively we are able to respond in an acitve, rational way which is never determined by a preprepared program, which usually not even derives from our own creation. This is something nobody tells us; it is a truth we normally have to find out for ourselves (and I am very happy and feel priviledged that I can contribute to the good in the world by telling you so. I am sure that bringing joy to the world and my beloved fellow-men is the main purpose why I have come to this earth, why I have been born).
  • Pay attention to the people you surround yourself with! The social environment has an enormous influence on our life. If we associate with negative, critical and contemporaries of low energy, wh shall not wonder that we find ourselves in bad life circumstances. Remove such people from your life, remove all the ones which do not support you way of living and the goals you intend to achieve. There is no compromise when it comes to this question, a clear cut must be made at all costs. There may be some social costs for you but they are nothing compared to the huge upside which will enfold in your life very soon.
  • Seperate yourself from the consciousness of the masses. It is a misguieded idea to believe that you could lead a happy life if you are living the way as “everybody else” is. Imitaion is suicide and the one who follows like a sheep of herd some so called “leaders” and holds for true what ordinary people think is true, shall not be amazed if he leads a life of misery. Most people think in categories of lack and scarcity (be it a lack of money, health, resources of all kind etc.). But if you want to be happy you have to align yourself with truth and this one is nothing else but eternal abundance, bounderylessness (for that is the true nature of the universe we live in!).
  • Practize mental hygiene – that means to clean your mind on a regular basis from all the dirt coming from the world. Eradicate all negative and limiting beliefs, thoughts, thoughts which make you feel small, unimportant, which cause sorrow and misery within you. They have nothing to do with reality and are in fact nothing but mental viruses intended to make you sick, to cause disease.
  • Never blieve that happiness is a limited good and that it would only be a temporary experience between misfortunes and all kinds of other experiences. In fact permanent happiness is very well possible for everyone of us. There is absolutely no reason why we should not be happy from the craddle to the grave, in every single minute of our life without any exceptions. This is an enormous statement but we should take it very serious and not push it outside of our range of consideration if we intend to be wise.
  • Change you environment; make sure you are surrounded only by beauty, pleasure, positive things and love and everything which is good in life. By doing so you reprogram your mind and it won’t take for long until you will experience the corresponding positive results in your life.



One of the most encouraging poems ever written is „Invictus“ by William Ernest Henley (1849-1903). I post it here as a reminder of what tremedous potential is rooted in all of us.



Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.



Finally two inspiring Youtube-Videos – just watch and enjoy!

There is nothing in the way of us enjoying our life except our own unwillingness to do so! Don’t be fooled by yourself and don’t allow youself to be so harsh and bad to yourself. Life is too short to not enjoy everything to the fullest!


Yours O. M.


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„Why not?“ is not a good reason!

44119071-male-businessman-said-why-not-retro-style-pop-artThe world is full of people who want something from us. The more intense and comprehensive our social life and our relationships to others are, the more we make this experience, especially if others know us for being generous and nice. This puts us permanently into the situation of making decisions – what per se is not a bad thing, but only if we don’t overdo it and are conscious of the decisions we make, no matter whether they are small ones or big ones, in any case they will cost us psychological energy. What I want to talk about today is a very special kind of request which oftentimes comes from outside (others) but also from inside: The “Why not?”.

Much too often we experience when observing others or ourselves that a lot of human actions are only based on the simple questions/idea „why not?“, without any other or reasonable thoughts underlying it. We all from time to time are subjet to the seduction of doing something only because there are no counter arguments at hand at a given moment. One would think such shouldn’t be a big deal or even a problem and giving in to such a proposition couldn’t be very harmful. Just to the contrary many see the option for a big benefit lying before their eyes. But is that really the case? Shouldn’t we take a closer look at the topic to find out if a decision which is solely based on the lack of arguments against it can be considerd rational and meaningful?

In fact the whole matter is not that harmless as it may seem in the beginning. In most cases there is something hidden behind the simple request “why not?”, usually nothing good for normally we are guided to support and follow someone else’s agenda but not our own. “Why not?” points at a vacuum in which we lack the necessary informations to make a positive decision, therefore we are pushed, at least emotionally, to follow the path of what probably could happen if we talk it. When we give in we work for the benefit of others or of our “inner seducer” (damon, devil, Joker, however you want to name it), our weaknesses to make us submit to a will which is not our (true) own. Many give in to escape their own lack of information or simply not to face their boredom in life. Oftentimes there are good reasons not to do something, also we may not know them at the moment. Our temporary “speechlessness” is dangerous for it is a wonderful tool for others to make us bend to their will. It is extremely questionable if giving in will ever provide us with any benefit at all.

So, what can we rely on? Our mere rational mind sometimes is not sufficient enough and we need more, we need reason because such always includes our intuition, what is nothing else but unconscious knowledge (don’t be fooled by people who talk about something “magic” when it comes to intuition). The danger exists in particular in the areas where we have only little knowledge and/or experience (no matter what age we are). What is crucial is that you feel something when making a decision. If you don’t feel anything at all it is never wise to make a decision at all, even more: modern brain science has demonstrated that without emotions we are incapable of making any descion at all. What it’s all about is not that we are without emotions but that we don’t let others determine them for us. The basic rule is that whenever our emotions don’t give us a clear signal like “ok” or “yes”, we should answer a request with “no”. We should never make a decision for something just because we have no reasons at hand which are against it.

It is always important to have a good reason for a matter of any kind, otherwise we are always at risk to be like a pilot on a blind flying mission and to be at the mercy of fate (or even worse of other people). It is crucial to have at least one good reason for every decision, one which overrules a bunch of doubts. Most of all we should take a deep breath and take time out whenever the thought “why not?” comes into our mind. Such a time out is toxic for all seductions and impulses which want to force us to take action immediately without thinking a lot. Furthermore we have to ask ourselves if the related topic is our business or not. Much too often we care for other people’s businesses and forget our own ones at the same time.


Yours O. M.


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Freedom doesn’t come without a shadow

Schatten der FreiheitNothing in the world, in particular nothing which is created by human beings, reaches such an amount of purity that it wouldn’t include some sort of flaw. This fact is well known to the wise men of all times; in the 20th century it was the Swiss psychologist Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1961) who very intensely cared about this problem and who has created a systematic which is very useful. Therfore I will address the issue which Jung called “the shadow” which has strongly influences modernity as well as postmodernity.

The one who talks about eating usually is hungry, the one who propagates peace usually has war in his mind and quite often the one who professes to cherisih freedom only intends to escape his lack of freedom. Those are old insights but nevertheless we have to call them back into our conscious mind on a regular basis so that we don’t live in illusions and on the other side dig deeper into the reality of the life of the human soul. The shadow according to Jung is a part of the human unconscious, a part which exists in more or less strong contrast to the consciousness. It is the contrast to what we think about ourselves, to the self-definition we cherish about ourselves and all the things which we declare as “good”, “beautiful” and “welcoming” about our own nature. In short one could say the shadow is the exact opposite of what we consciously believe about ourselves. In it’s existence the shadow is equal to the dimension and intensitiy of the consicous beliefs we have – it is the exact nagative image of them.

What does this mean in relation to freedom and in striving for her? In general it is relevant for us because it is about all those aspects within us which represent the opposite of freedom: Unfreedom, dependency, in some cases even serfdom or pure slavery! Special caution needs to be given to the areas in which a person shows true fanatism about craving for freedom and independence, to such a degree that an observer cannot rationally understand such behaviour. In most of such cases such activities are about escaping from the opposite of freedom, as well as from powerlessness and helplessness. The one who feels unfree or who only feels little freedom in his life and has to live a life according to the will of others may develop a strong urge for freedom but it is almost always an illusion and reality demonstrates the exact opposite of what is presented to the outside world (which is quite obvious for others but not for the person herself).

Therefore it is unevitable that we face our shadow with all of it’s dimensions to reveal all the parts of our inner life and make them conscious which sabotage what we consciously want to achieve. The shadow, as I have already shown in a previous post, is not necessarily something “bad” or “dark”, but something, which we don’t want to see, something which goes against our conscious attitude and opinions, especially in regard to our own identity. Nevertheless the shadow is a reality and not to know about this reality always equals to be at the mercy of the danger of being influences or even guided by “unknown forces” in our life – in some extreme cases this can even lead up to psychosis.

Where are your weaknesses? Where are you not promoting freedom but let others or society determine your conduct of life? This test is not about what you tell yourselve about your own life and your motivations but about your real way of living (what you really do which only can be found out by having a honest and sincere look at your activities). These activities are usually very differnt from the “self-talk” people use on a regualr basis. These are the true areas which include big treasures in our life which only wait for us to be detected. But they even more include the huge potential for personal growth, but of course only for the ones who are courageous and brave enough to face their shadow completely.


Some thoughts in closing

To have a good life an individual has to be free. The one who is a slave, no matter if he is conscious of this circumstance or not, is never a free person and his happiness, should he be able to feel such, is nothing but a mere illusion. More than 200 years ago Thomas Jefferson postulated very accurately: “If the government is afraid of the people there is freedom. If the people are afraid of the government there is tyranny!” What about us and our times, wherever we live on the planet? Are our governments afraid of us or is it the other way around? I believe here we find a true touchstone to find out about the real realtionships in our world, one we can trust (the referendum in the UK about leaving the EU or not last week may give further material to ponder about when it comes to the question of freedom of a people).

So we have to be very careful when striving for freedom; we always have to be aware of the possibility that there is the contrary aspect in our psyche present and active at the same time as the conscious idea of freedom (seems to) dominates our mind. True freedom can never be reached if we have not integrated the shadow, the unfreedom within ourselves, in a proper way. Only the one who has become conscious of his shadow can reasonably build his life on a strong fundament and can hope to lead a free and self-determined life.


Yours O. M



Freedom and Certainty

Sky and cloudsFreedom is what almost all people are striving for and there is hardly an individual, at least in the Western world, who has not put freedom high on his list of priorities.

We misinterprete our situation if on the one side we call for freedom but on the other side we want our life to develop along well known lines. If we strive for freedom we usually feel unfree with our present situation. What we seemingly want is a change of our circumstances. On the other hand we are afraid of exactely such a change. It is a contradition to want freedom and certainty at the same time. If the world and her development was certain there would be no room for chance, for spontaneity and that would mean freedom would be unreachable forever. The nature of freedom is that the future has not been written yet, that it is uncertain what is about to come. An optimist is a person who believes that the future is uncertain. It is an old problem (not only for philosophers and theologians) to find out if man has a free will or if everything is determinded, or if there is a middle position between them possible. But one thing is for sure: The bigger the determination of the universe, the smaller the amount of (human) freedom is. The extreme case would be a prefixed destiny – in that case there is no free will and it would be useless to talk about freedom at all. Talking about freedom would be like phantasizing and there would be no real hope for mankind and we could only walk throught life with pessimism.

Many individuals seem not to notice the logical contradictions of wanting freedom and certainty simultaniously and that is one of the reasons for human suffering. If we believe we could enjoy freedom without paying a price for we are misguided. We oftentimes don’t consider how many things in life – good or bad – are subjected to chance. Modern physics has proven that chance is a decisive factor in the universe. We may not like this for it provides us with the feeling of not being important and it is very easy to start believing that you are a victim of “higher powers”, no matter if they are natural or supernatural.

But that is not the only way of looking at this phenomenon. If we draw a comparison between us and the universe what is called accident in the realm of nature is called spontaneity in human beings. Often enough it has been shown that humans never succeed when fighting against nature and disregard the laws of her (don’t believe the bullshit constructivist tell you – they belong to the most misguided people on the whole planet). Men’s fortune can only be found in finding harmony with nature, newer in fighting against her. Unfortunately we are still influenced by cultural ways of behaviour and thinking which have taught us different for a long time.

The freedom of men does not lie in forecasting the future but in the (psychological) permission to act and react in any given situation in the most appropriate way. Freedom first of all is nothing legal, also nothing social, but something psychological! The true problem is that very few people have the permission to always do the right thing. The reason for that is on the one side the education and socialization, on the other side all the habbits which were acquired over the years. They are the true source of our unfreedom. Only the one who does a substantial amount of self-work can expect ever to reach true freedom. Attempts to improve the legal situation or to chance social circumstances will help very little. In fact such attempts very often support the victim mindset of people and strenghtens their belief of being determined by outside forces and that only the change of them would give them some freedom.

People make a big mistake if they believe that they could be fee without having developped certain necessary character traits. To be free also includes to give up the craving for certainty in life and to give up the longing for knowing your personal destiny beforehand! It means to be ready to totally accept responsibility for everything in your life. The most important supposition to do so is to develop courage. Aristotle was the first to declare courage as the virtue on which all other virtues depend. To be a real man, to be a virtuous person, we have to be courageous – a coward is not able to be a good citizen, no matter how much he may wishes to be one. We seriously have to ask ourselves if it is really freedom we are striving for. Observations show that what people very often mean when they talk about freedom is stresslessness and a comfortable living. Therefore we have to be very careful what we are actually talking about.

Human beings strive for being good but quite often they are not very successful in doing so. Even St. Paul wrote in his letters that it is not the good he wants to do he acutally does but the evil he abhors. We therefore should be more indulgent with ourselves and others without becoming negligent at the same time. The high ideals of moral can never be completely achieved, nevertheless they are our guiding star to orientate ourselves in the area of what is right and what is not. “Man is good – only the people are a rabble!” the Aurstian dramatist Johann Nepomuk Nestroy said.

Let`s have the courage to be free and not to be afraid of the unknown!


Yours O. M.



Why Complaining Is Worthless

17072667-an-angry-mob-of-people-swears-bad-words-in-speech-clouds-or-bubbles-to-voice-their-anger-frustrationWell, my good fellow—to leave PegasusWho scarce can serve us than our horses worse—They say no one should rob another ofThe single satisfaction he has leftOf singing his own sorrows; one so great,So says some great philosopher, that troubleWere worth encount’ring only for the sakeOf weeping over—what perhaps you knowSome poet calls the ‘luxury of woe.’

in Life Is A Dream“ by Pedro Calderón de la Barca –

Who wouldn’t know the individuals who permanently complain about everyone and everything in life, who declare that “evil circumstances” would determine their life, who are very inventive when it comes to find reasons for their own misfortune and who never look into the mirror and start seeing the reality of their life? Those are people who always pretend to be victims and never consider themsevles to be the creators of their lifes. One could despise or pity them but in any case spending time among such individuals will be a waste of time. But let us look at how things really are. The image we get by doing so will be a very different one.


There Are No Real Advantages In Complaining

It’s somehow astonishing, but to complain seemingly possesses some advantages according to the opinion of many contemporaries. One cannot blame them completely, to be honest, but the closer you look at the matter the more such advantages turn out to be very doubtful. If we walk on the path of always-complaining we recongnize a few things, whether we like it or not, which often are perceived as pleasant:

  • First of all, complaining is a source of pleasure, a pleasure which is born out of vengeance, which of course nobody admits to have.
  • One tries to provoke pity by rubbing one’s bad destiny under the nose of everybody who is unlucky enought to run into such people.
  • Some have to complain to go on living, to hold out life in general. If this possiblity would be taken away from them, they wouldn’t be able to go on living, or keeping their sanity. And in some cases the consequences would even be worse than that.
  • Complaining has the power to berush people, as if they were drunken – in most cases this rush doesn’t go so far that they lose their mind but it is strong enough to feel a strong energy within themselves, on which they usually miss in their life – this energy is an illusion but the best which is available to such individuals. That is the appeal for the complainer.


The Reality Of Complaining

We shall not mince matters and look at them the way the lay befor our eyes, therefore we, as searchers of truth, cannot avoid but to face certain insights, without any regard if they are considered “polite” or “decent”. One forgive me for my Nietzeanian pathos, but nobody can stop being himself and being true to one’s own being is inevitable for every individual which has taken this road of veracity.

  • The notorious complainer is a decadent person, it is not power which is expressed by him, but weakness. Complaining is based on personal weakness but do people of today still know what a “decadent” is, in the sense of Nietzsche?
  • Every complaint includes revenge, the intention to “get even” with life, but normally it is well disguised and therefore one can count on the agreement of his fellow-men. It is the dark side of justice. But is it really justice, even if it is solely the dark side?
  • The complainer wants to turn others into such bad beings as he himself is. He cannot stand sitting in a stinking swamp, whereas others enjoy their life sitting on green meadows, being in good company with like-minded people. The complainer has to steal from the others what gives them joy and calls it “righteousness” or even “justice”.
  • The one who complains is a poor life and what is left is only words and pathos. He hopes to be heared by others and that his speech will not be exposed as what it really is – weakness.
  • To insult it the joy of the poor chap, as Nietzsche says. Someone has to be to blame for one’s misfortune and therefore the lack for scapegoats. Well, when you search for such a scapegoat your search will never be in vain.
  • The one who complains doesn’t know anything and doesn’t even wants to know WHY he is suffering. He is satisfied with explanations which attract his mind even if it is the most shallow one imaginable. That’s enough for him but the wise one knows to defend himself and keeps far away what only can hit him if he allows so, when in a moment of weakness he allows negative influences to have influence on him.
  • Complaining harms our reputation, even more, it often encourages others to even harm as more by causing additional damage to us, instead of showing compassion. Therefore it is much wiser to talk about the good others did for your because such oftentimes has the power to encourage others to do even more good to us, following the example of others you have reported about. You should hold your tongue about the flaws of others, as well as about your own one’s. By doing so you strenghten the bonds to your friends and keep your enemies away.

To complain has it’s upsides as well as it’s downlides but nevertheless nobody who has some decent self respect wouldn’t choose such behaviour. The emotional relief of complaining weights nothing compared to the loss of respect and personal strength. Therefore we shouldn’t walk that path, without any doubt.


Yours O. M.


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Trump, Clinton, Sanders – another way of looking at them

“Politicians are all talk, no action” Trump said during his campaign, but that is not only true for politicians but for most people who are of public interest and who present themselves to a broader audience. Talk is hypnotizing and is used to distract us from looking at the deeper stuff and politicians are masters of distraction. What we actually criticize about talking is in fact the core of their business. And now Trump doesn’t stand apart but has become a part of this business too – the business of political power. Today I want to take a look at the run for president 2016 from another perspective, primarily not from analysing what the candidates say and also not how they say it but what their body language tells us. Almost certainly the finish in November will be Trump versus Clinton, nevertheless I include Sanders here because he made some strong points against Hillary and was/is a considerable rival within the democratic party. On the republican side it’s a lone run for Trump, there is no such rival who was/is fit enough to hold a candle to him (Ted Cruz is now out too).


Body language triumphs over speech

It is said that only seven percent of communication comes from the content of our words, some 16 percent derive from the intonation and rhythm and amazing 77 percent is our body language. Accept that that’s the case, looking at body language is a good idea. Body language is much more difficult to control than your speech, especially if you look at someone for a longer period of time. The amount of energy one would need to fake the body language is way to big, so that there would be hardly any be left for talking or following a meaningful conversation. The more situations you observe by concentrating on the body, the less likely you are deceived.

Politicians are actors, like almost all people standing in the public spotlight. When not sure what a certain posture or look may signal, imitate it and look how you feel why doing so. That gives you a good idea of what is going on within the person you observe. Writing about politics can never be neutral, personal preferences are always part of the story. The following interpretations are my personal perceptions and opinions. When looking at the candidates always make up your own mind.

So, let’s run the experiment, watch some videos of Trump, Clinton and Sanders, turn off the sound and solely concentrate on the miming and gestures:



Donald TrumpTrump is by far the candidate who shows the strongest emotions. He shows more anger than any of the others and applies to the feeling of America having lost something in the past decades. Trump occupies the most space around him compared to the other candidates, he is the typical alpha male who is sure of not only needing but also deserving more space than others. He must dominate all social situations he is in, being number two is unacceptable for him. Hand movements are strong and dominant and also very clear in their significance. Trump makes clear he is not an intellectual, he doesn’t philosophize a lot about what should be done or not, makes quick decisions and acts on them immediately. Trump is an extrovert what is a big advantage in a culture which puts so little interest in the inside of life and is mostly orientated on the outside. A question that stays is: Why is Trump so angry? Hardly anyone would believe because of the current state of the US or it’s political system (that’s the public story). There must be something about his own life and probably childhood which has left such an anger within him. But that might be a too personal story. For further readings of mine about Trump follow this link.



Hillary ClintonHillary shows way less anger than Trump, she addresses the feeling that America has always been great and still is great, that it has never lost it’s greatness at all and that Trumps is completely wrong about this point. Her body movements are less expressive and sometimes look being forced and unnatrual to her. Some of her more dominant moves look are done halfheartedly, as if she shrinks back from her own “courage”. Something you would never see with Trump. The face of Clinton from time to time expresses self-rightousness, in particular when talk comes to her opponents Trump. She often plays the role of a school teacher who wants to disciplinize that “Bully” Trump (as if anybody would believe her she could handle that job) who obviously doesn’t know how to behave himself and gives a f*** to political correctness. Hillary is the candidate who uses humor much more often than Trump and Sanders, she is also the person who smiles more than the others and looks less dominant. This is very appealing for many but it is questionable if it will work with the majority of Americans. Clinton stands for the status quo, the ones who vote for her vote for at least another four years of the policy president Obama made.



Bernie SandersSanders presents himself as a voice of reason, a more intellectual person for whom analysing is at least as important as action. In some way the complete opposite of Trump. He is appealing to intellectuals, all kind of SJWs, “do-gooders” and people who feel America has become more unfair than ever. There is no doubt that Sanders thinks a lot but in an extrovert culture like the one of the US such position is traditionally not very popular. Sanders can be surprising once in a while; most of the time however he looks very controlled and thoughtful, but from time to time he puzzles his audience with some aggressive gestures and even some “warlike” statements. Some of them where even the best points he made in his campaign (attacking Hillary for her million dollar suports as well as Wall Street, from example). But very soon later he reduces himself again to his more moderate style – probably not to scare his sophisticated followers. So, Sanders is the one of the candidates who plays the card of class warfare, but he is far too moderate in his conduct of using that strategy, to appear like a radical. If someone is angry he is more likely to vote for Trump than for Sanders, although Trump will not make a policy for the poor and underpriviledged. Sanders may have honest intentions but should he become president (what is of course extremely unlikely), he will be isolated – the top one percent will not allow him to put his socialist ideas into practise.


These are just a few ideas and far away from making up a complete picture; an in-depth analysis takes much more investigation and is highly recommended to all people who intend to vote. The American society includes massive amounts of structural violence against a big part of it’s population. Freedom and the possibility for success and wealth have become a myth for most people and more and more are waking up from this long cherished illusion. The way the candidates address this issues are different but one thing is for sure: Whoever will win in November will have a difficult job in uniting the country and working against a further splitting up of society.


Some questions to ponder

  • What feelings do I have looking at the different candidates?
  • What do I see when I look at his/her eyes?
  • Why am I attracted to one of the candidates? Why is that not the case with the others?
  • Can I identify with one of the candidates? If so, why?
  • When I look at the body language of the candidates, how much does it correspond with the words spoken?
  • If I look at the body language of the candidates and compare them to a three-year-old showing such bodily expressions: What meaning would this expression have then?

I admit it: in particular the last question is somehow mean, but I consider it to be one of the best for finding out about the truth of the candidates. I am sure if people would start looking at the body language and would care less for the spoken words, the result of the elections in November would be very different – and probably much better.


Yours O. M.


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Emotional maturity or: Your psychological age

2904172-portrait-of-a-senior-successful-businessmanIn most countries you are an adult as soon as you have reached the age of 18. Right? As far as it is about the legal age of being considered adult, which means to be fully responsible and of legal capacity that’s true. But on the other side we all know that there are people who’s conduct of behaviour when they are 20, 30, 50 or even older, has not reached the state of someone that age, as one would reasonably expect. So, we see when we talk about “maturity” we are dealing with different aspects which must be distinguised very clearly.


Different sorts of maturity

There are three different sorts of maturity in human beings, which are usually reached at different times during our development:

  1. Physical maturity
  2. Mental maturity
  3. Emotional/psychological maturity

Physical maturity is usually reached in the early 20ies and reaches it’s peak in the mid-20ies. Mental maturity goes way beyond and is achieved somewhere between the age of 30 and 50. The different points of view relating to this topic are way too different to make general and relyable statements. Also the individual differences are quite huge. When it comes to emotional maturity we come to the most problematic one of them all. Psychological maturity is normally only reached when an indiviudal reaches higher age, if ever. The biggest part of mankind never reaches this kind of maturity to it’s fullest and dies without having totally enfolded this natural ability of human beings.

To reconginize your own emotional maturity is way more difficult than detecting the one of others. The reason for that is that the biggest part of our immature activities and in particular our non-adult motives are not conscious to us but are burried deeply in the subconscious mind. Nevertheless there are a few signs which help us to get clearity about our own psychological maturity:


Signs of emotional maturity

  • The ability to distinguish between what is under our control and what is not, as well as the acceptance of the result which conclude from this distinction
  • Respect for our own bounderies as well as for the one’s of others
  • Concentration: Emotional maturity is characterized also by the ability to completely concentrate on a given task for a longer period of time. Related to that is the ability to fulfill unpleasent tasks as well as postponing rewards
  • The capacity to be the master of your emotions. To control the actual feeling in a given situation only works if there is no “emotional burden” left in a person. That means that there are no banked up feelings from the past which are triggerd by the present situation. If for example an individual shows an amount of rage which cannot be explained by the present situation there is always somthing from the past involved which gets addressed in such moments
  • Difficulties with distinguishing between right and wrong and a strong tendency to give in to relativism, in the worst case believing in a pure materialistic or even cynical-nihilistic worldwiev is a sign of immaturity
  • Another mark of immaturity is an existential restlessness in your life, an “uneasiness within culture” as Sigmund Freud called it
  • The lack of empathy, the incapability to understand the emotional life of others and not beeing able to feel what others feel, points towards psychological immaturity
  • Narcissism – malignant “self-love” is another sign to be mentioned here. This should not be mixed up with a healthy dose of self confidence, which is the exact opposite of immaturity but a sign of emotional maturity
  • Awareness for you own personality an your actions shows maturity. The one who lives life mainly on “auto-pilot” only possesses a limited amount of freedom and is not even aware of it
  • Responsibility: Psychologically mature people accept responsibility für their acitons. The search for scapegoats is a typical mark of immaturity in this area
  • To be satisfied with yourself – to be “enough”. The one would permanently looks outside for the fulfillment of his needs (material, respect, rewards etc.) is like a child which needs to be nurtured by his parents
  • The ability to deal with critique. This means to distinguish between constructive and destructive ones. The first one has to be taken serious to improve yourself the second one is a personal attack and shouldn’t make us irritated or angry.


The biggest obstacle to emotional maturity – not to know yourself

Now we come to the most serious, to the real hard stuff! Here we have the core of the very most of life problems on the whole: Most people have no idea about who they really are! In early childhood the majority gets alienated from themselves (we call this process of alienation “education” and “socialization” – sounds pretty harmless or even good but in effect it is the worst what can happen to a young human being, at least in the sense ordinary society understands it). This alienation is that common that it is considered normal – even psychologists and psychiatrists don’t consider this to be a problem, because in most cases they are befallen by that disease themselves. The alienation from youself results in the alienation from others, from your work/job/profession and in the end in the alienation from nature. That’s the state of the biggest part of mankind in the early 21st century. Therefore it is no wonder that emotional maturity is not very common. This applies especially to the so called “civilized” peoples; Native people, “primitive races”, on the other hand have the highest degree of emotional maturity observable! However, the solution for the individual to reach emotional maturity consits in one big thing: TO RECONNECT WITH YOURSELF! What you need to do this is to have compassion for yourself. Without this reconnection every attempt to achieve psychological maturity will stay incomplete.



Should we be ashamed if we find out that our emotional maturity doesn’t match with our physical and mental maturity? Or should we reproach ourselves and feel miserble? Of course not, that wouldn’t help anybody. Feelings of guilt and shame only maintain a given state of mind and make it harder or even impossible to change for the better. All starts with stopping to deceive ourselves about the reality about ourselves, our mind and our psyche. We have to take an honest and sincere look into the mirror. As painful as the recognition of your own emotional age may be in the beginning, as helpful and healthy such an insight can be, because it has the potential to make us work on ourselves to improve and grow. The old proverb which is so often true also applies here: Medicine has to taste bitter otherwise it has no effect.


Yours O. M.

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Problems are part of life – so what?

31760214-difficult-resolution-of-a-maze-by-a-troubled-businessmanThere is one big thing we always have to face in life: Problems and difficultiers. The idea of a “perfect” life without any problems at all, may be very seductive but in this universe such is completely impossible. That is not only true for “ordinary people” but also for the ones who have become successful, – what usually means in our society to be rich, powerful and famous.

Certainly, our problems don’t stay the same throughout life and change when circumstances and personal development become different, but nevertheless the fact of having difficulties itself stays. When we are childern or teenagers we face problems most of us have solved when we turn adult but as grown-ups we have problems the youth cannot even imagine. Poor people, as well as diseased ones have problems, but the rich and healthy ones have them too. The fear of losing money is as strong, or even stronger, than the one not to have enough to live. The fear of disease can be much bigger than the one of never ever to be healthy again.

To have goals in life is something good in general but we shall not forget that reaching them will soon create new problems we oftentimes haven’t thought about when setting the goals. In some cases this problems can be that severe that we wouldn’t have decided to achieve a certain goal if we would have known about these problems in the first place. One may climb the ladder but on every new step there are new difficulties arising. That’s for granted.

What value a problem has for an individual is a question of evaluation and such depends on our mindset. What is thought to be a catastrophy for one individual is hardly worth mentioning for another one. When talking about mindset we have to be cautious not to support using psychological defense mechanisms, which in effect are always a means to avoid the present reality to it’s totality. Furthermore they are usually some kind of swindle. If you feel pain it would be nonsens to pretend such pain wouldn’t exist. Such a manipulation of our psyche is not working, it only may look so if we are not looking at the issue too closely. What really is helping is changing your attention, turning it away from the things which block you to the ones which offer a solution and new perspective.

The idea that life would only be good if there are no problems at all, is one of the big causes of unhappiness and misfortune in life, which torture so many people. The one who decides to go for the personal goal of living a convenient life without problems, will inevitably find himself unhappy and frustrated. We have to learn to come to the insight that problems are a normal part of life and not an “error” which has to be eradicated. One can be happy and content very well, inspite of having difficulties and problems in our life.

If we accept that life is not easy and that problems will accompany us all the time, we don’t have to spend any erergy in fighting reality and can care for the things which are under our control. In dealing with problems it is best not to resist them directly but approach them in the way practitioners of most Asian martial arts do. Instead of returning a heavy blow with another blow one just guides the energy of the opponent into the desired direction. In essence this technique is about directing the strength of the oppenent against himself.

If we accept problems as inevitably tied to life, the fact of their existence is not a big deal any more. We then are free to do what has to be done.


Yours O. M.

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True knowledge or: What do I really know?

5928111-the-thinker-statue-by-the-french-sculptor-rodinThe conception of „knowledge“ nowadays is treated without a lot a care, even more many use it flippantly and brag with what they think to know or admire others of whom they think are intelligent and full of knowledge. Truth is that in most cases that is not the case. Only quite rarely what is called “knowledge” really deserves to be atually called knowledge, true knowledge. How can that be? Why should most people be wrong about what knowledge really is?


True knowledge

True knowledge can never derive from reading, no matter how many books one has read or of what quality the books being read are. The reader is never the master of his thoughts and thinking processes but is always mainly lead by someone else, the author, and has to follow the direction this other person lead him to. The one who reads is not thinking with his own mind but with the one of another individual. Only thoroughly thinking through what one has read may produce knowledge in the end. Reading must be done in moderation, the one who reads excessivley will soon find his mind become dependent and sluggish. The search for new mental stimulation through the thoughts of others can become an addiction which slackens the mind and easily leads to the loss of independent thinking at all. Philosophers have warned ever since of the dangers of reading (too much) and some of them, like Hobbes and Comte, have glorified themselves by the fact that they have read quite little in their lifes.

Knowledge is also never gained from mere experience, because only thinking about what one has experienced can create true knowledge. Therefore neither the book-worm nor the sole empirist are thinkers in the real sense.

The difference between true knowledge and second-hand knowledge is tremendous. When someone talks about knowledge which only derives from others, the thoughts lack originality, the presentation is characterized by platitude, commonplace and all kinds of trendy phrases which are intendet to indicate “wisdom”. What is missing is passion, the “fire”, which enlightens true knowledge – the style is in most cases usual and hackneyed. We very easily observe that such a person doesn’t feel what he is talking about, everything is in his “head” (mind) but his heart is empty, the heart hasn’t understood a bit. On the other side a true thinker, one who’s brain and heart, have equally deeply understood a matter, has and original expression, there is always something unique, quite often something new. We recongnize that such an individual is the true owner of his knowledge. The different truths of his have been tested and compared with each other and as a result the thinker has acquired a certainty which is alien to the sophist, the one for whom shining is everything and being nothing. The true thinker possesses intellect and reason, the second-hand thinker only has intellect.


What are the effects of independent thinking?

„Knowledge is power“, one says, but by believing these words most people deceive themselves. No matter how educated one may ever be, he will never possess power only because of having an education. The idea that education equals power is an incidious lie. The only thing which really grants power is true knowledge, the one which comes from deep thinking about an important matter. Such knowledge is hard to find, only very few people have it and therefore power which is based on knowledge is so rare – everywhere and at all times.

Original thinking sets us free because by thinking about a matter independently creates our own authority and we stop accepting others as being “above” or “superior” to ourselves. The insecurity which is typical for so many people who only partially think for themselves, the ones you permanently need more and more information and still are undecided and neurotically dispute with themselves, is unknown to the true thinker; Such thinkers dwell in their own mental strength which of course must not be mixed up with narrowmindedness or selfrighteousness. The one who only has book-knowledge and the thoughts of other people cannot arrive at the certainty of the true thinker, the best he can do is to pose and present an apparent intellectual strength to others (and hope that nobody will detect the swindel based on all the second-hand knowledge).

What is overlooked very easily it the fact that original thinking makes us happy! The one who has never tried it out, who believes thinking to be a unpleasant task, of course doesn’t know about this phenomenon. True thinking one can recongnize by observation of the thinker: His thinking is not intended to impress, to support an image of being “clever” or “intelligent”. Such thinking is sufficient in itself and if the results can be put into practical use, it is an addictional gratification.

Finally thinking on your own has the effect of elevate yourself to the masses, even to one of scholars and highly educated people. It is a bad habit of our times that we find well educated people everywhere but that hardly anyone of them is capabel of thinking properly – thus our schools, colleges and universities grant diplomas not to people who think on their own but to the ones who successfully think according to the way and limits someone else has established for them.


What does it take for thinking on your own?

What is the origin of true knowledge? There are a few points to be regarded:

  • Interest and stimulation: To be able to think on your own it takes motivation, one has to follow his own nature and therefore a profound knowledge about yourself is a supposition to become a good thinker. The one who has no idea about who he is, what he wants and by what values he is guided, also doesn’t know where to direct his thinking to. Moreover original thinking only works when done voluntarily; the one who is forced to think, will hardly every reach the point where he starts acquiring true knowledge.
  • Gravity: If a theme only means little or nothing to us, we will not be able to have enough gravity, which is necessary to do the hard thinking.
  • Courage: Thinking is an intellectual, as well as an emotional affair. Character is crucial. The most important characteristics one needs to think is courage, so that you handle facing conflicts with others as well as with yourself and your own (old) ideas.
  • Concentration: Thinking always takes a object to deal with, to think “freely” without having a concrete task to be accomplished is a waste of time and energy. That does not mean one should establish strict bounderies for thinking but especially that you always have your goal in mind during the process of thinking. Thus you can afford the freedom to walk on new paths. We have to avoid day-dreaming, being berushed by phantasies and the uncontrolled wandering of thoughts.
  • Perseverence: Thinking, true and hard thinking, is oftentimes very exhausting and can take a lot of time. Once in a while one may feel stuck and not to be able to advance any further, no matter how hard you try. In such situations the temptation to give up is at it’s peak. For thinking, like for most important and great things in life, it takes a great amount of perseverence to be successful.
  • Timing: Reading can be done at any time, as well as learning, what it takes to do so is discipline; thinking on the other hand takes an inner “tension” an inspiration, which can not be achieved easily by sole willpower. Nobody, not even the most clever one, is able to think originally at every given moment.
  • Learning: To think deeply about a topic one has to know something. That means one should learn first to have material available to think about. Only by this act of thinking through, true knowledge is developped.



Thinking on your own endows you with freedom and power; only by independent thinking one acquires knowledge which is worth being called so. Knowledge from books is unsuitable as well as knowledge which derives from pure experience which has not been “digested” and “incorporated” too. Only what has been “spiritualized” deserves to be called true knowledge, everything else will always stay foreign to us, at least to a certain degree.

To the one who is still a rookie in the area of original thinking I recommend total abstinence from books for at least a few weeks. For a book-worm this will feel like “cold turkey” for a drug addict (I know what I am talking about, because for a long time I was addicted on books myself). Besides, one should start practizing original thinking about important issues for at least half an hour a day. Don’t take notes, don’t write down anything in the beginning, just think. It is a good practise to speak your thought to yourself aloud, for it makes it easier to detect thinking errors or sloppy reasoning, than thinking only in your “head” alone (also see my article on solving problems by talking to yourself).

Only what we have thought through by ourselves realy is our own and our truth! Only such things we truely understand, we are deeply familiar with it, like with our physical body. Such truths are no “things” any more which belong to us, but are parts of ourselves in the true sense of the word. If at the end of his life someone really knows something (i.e. what he has thought through down to it’s deepest roots), his life has not been in vain. Thus, what are your original thought? What do you really know?


Yours O. M.

P.S.: As a good start into a career of self-thinking I recommend the book “Thinking as a science” by Henry Hazlitt, which can be downloaded here from

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